Happy Birthday, Dad.

Good morning everyone.  It was really hard for me to write this post. Life was so different this time last year.  It’s March 21 and it’s also my father’s birthday.  He would have been 63 years old today.  When grieving we can be going along and everything seems to be okay.  Then out of nowhere, grief hits you in full force.  The hardest part of healing after you’ve lost a loved one is to recover the “you” that went away with them too.  Its been almost several months since my dad entered the gates of Heaven and the pain still hasn’t gone away…I’m just learning to make room for it.

But then there’s a special kind of feeling when I think about my dad. The special memories, his jokes, his love for food.  He was caring and selfless.  I miss being able to get advice from him too…I often wonder what he would say now.

I wanted to honor my dad on his birthday by styling one of his dress shirts.  My dad had a thing for button ups.  Back in the day, I would help pick them out whenever we would go shopping.  He wasn’t afraid of color and loved stripes and plaid!  He was open to almost anything. Now you guys know where I get it from!  Fun fact: I tried to incorporate the roses somehow for this shoot because my dad liked roses. Growing up, my dad used to take my sister and I to the park on his days off.  Our pre-internet days, spent at the rose garden.  We even had photoshoots at the rose garden with my dad’s camera and everything! Oh what I would give to relive those moments again.

At times when I would get lonely, there’s always this comforting feeling that I get whenever I hold/wear my dad’s clothes.  It’s like  getting an invisible hug from him.  There will always be a place somewhere within my heart that only my father can own.

Oh, Dad.  There’s never a day that goes by that I don’t look at your picture and smile.  Or cry.  Or both.  Happy Birthday in heaven. 💛

 

Photos by Arabela Espinoza

Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

My Dad’s shirt // Asos Relaxed Boyfriend Shirt
Zara Customized Jeans // Waven Aki Boyfriend Jeans
BaubleBar Piñata Tassel Drops // BaubleBar Artemis Tassell Drop Earrings Dolce Vita Howie Sandal (this color is sold out) // Dolce Vita Howie Sandal
Zara White Perforated Tote (sold out) // Urban Expressions Perforated Tote

 

Louis Vuitton X My Style and Grace #MakeAPromise Event

You guys!  My website is finally up and running again!  YAY!  I’m overly excited to be back in the blogging game (pardon me) after a brief hiatus.  My website has been down for quite sometime due to some hosting issues, but things are taken care of and the wheels are in motion.  The only bummer is that I lost a few of my older posts (insert sad face emoji) and my blog feels incomplete.  Eek!  It’s like I’m having to start over again.  Oh well.  Out with the old, in with the new.  I’m super late with this post, but hey, #betterlatethannever.

Almost several months ago after I lost my father to a heart attack (August 2016),  I prayed to hopefully rebuild my life again while welcoming the new year ahead.  God must’ve listened and granted me this amazing, once in a lifetime endeavor.

So what is it?

Earlier this year, I was blessed with the opportunity to host the #MakeAPromise event with Louis Vuitton for UNICEF.  This so far, is the highlight of my blogging career.  I still pinch myself to this day.  Me? Louis Vuitton?  Get out of here.  Never in my life did I ever think I would collaborate with Louis Vuitton.  Aah!  And not only that, they have joined forces with UNICEF to launch a global initiative with the goal of raising funds that will benefit children in urgent need.  It was humbling to be a part of this great cause.  Thank you, Louis Vuitton.  I am forever grateful for this.

It’s been an emotional rollercoaster and I wanted to express my appreciation to you.  A wholehearted thanks for keeping up and growing with me in my blogging career.   Ok, here comes the tears so I’m going to stop right here.  But really guys, I continue to do what I do because of you.  Thank you for YOUR part in MY journey. 💛

 

 

Photos by Gladys Jem

 

Bittersweet Fall.

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Today marks the first day of the Fall Solstice.  It’s one of my favorite seasons, but this year feels bittersweet.  A month ago on August 22, my dad entered the gates of Heaven. The past few weeks have been heavy on my heart.  There are no words to explain the unbearable heartache, but because I am an extension of my father, I will try to live everyday through him and for him, honoring him in everything that he taught me in life. Living with just half of my heart now, but I choose to let light and God’s Grace in to help me live stronger with more love and compassion.

With that said, I’m going to keep blogging with even more passion and move forward from here on.  After all, my dad was my biggest fan and if he were still here today, he’d encourage me to keep going.

Thank you all for being understanding and sticking with me during this difficult time of my life.  I appreciate each one of you. <3

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All my love,

Grace

“Confessions of a self-described introvert.”

“You can’t pour from an empty cup.  Take care of yourself first.”

 

Occasionally people will ask me “How do you keep up with the increasing pressure to communicate through social media as a blogger?”  Truth is, I get overwhelmed without a doubt by continuous conversations on multiple platforms.  The challenge in blogging for me is that you have to engage a lot.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my readers and being able to share my creativity through my blog…I wouldn’t be where I am now without YOU!  (LOVE YOU GUYS!)

Although some days, I just want to be a hermit.  Us introverts have this natural advantage in knowing how to disconnect.  It’s just our way to get our energy back.  I feel that it’s hard for extroverts to understand that even though we may have strong social skills/enjoy events and business meetings etc., we would much rather be at home in our pajamas.  To get our energy back from being socially drained, we just need quiet time to be back to ourselves.  I crave that space because it gives me a fresh perspective and energy to be able to interact with others again.  So when I’m quiet and MIA on social media, don’t take it personal!  I just have to getaway for a little to refill.  Thank you guys for allowing me to keep it real! <3

 

P.S. A new outfit post is coming up after I take a little mental break.  Stay tuned!

 

“Birthday suit”

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Today marks the first day of summer and also my birthday.  To be honest, (let’s keep it real for a sec) I really wasn’t excited about my birthday this year, but I thought about being given another year is a privilege that is denied to many people.  I’ve decided that from here on, I’m going to just count my blessings and not my birthdays.  Today is definitely a gift. #blessed

Thank you all for the birthday wishes, texts, phone calls…also, thank you for being part of my blogging journey.  I don’t know where we are headed, but I am so grateful that along the way, you’ve been with ME.  Thanks for your continuous love and support, I appreciate all of it!  My heart sings with gratitude <3

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Photo by Gladys Jem

Here’s what I’m wearing // and other options

One piece suit // Plunge neck backless suit
Retro Super Future Sunglasses // Retro Super Future Lucia

“HAPPY NEW YEAR! MY STYLE AND GRACE TURNS 1!”

HELLO 2016!  365 new days.  365 new chances.

Exactly a year ago, I launched My Style and Grace as my creative outlet in hopes to share my fashion tips and to motivate and help the fashionistas at heart.  I had no idea that my following would grow quite quickly given the fact that I had just started blogging.  My blog has opened a lot of opportunities for me and for that, I’m GRATEFUL for the new connections and friendships that I’ve made so far.  At first, blogging seemed impossible to break into knowing how competitive it is within the industry but with some planning and determination, it can be one of the most rewarding and creative careers around.  So here I am, about to tackle another 365 days of new challenges and goals.  I’m thrilled to see what 2016 has to offer!  I would like to express my gratitude to all of you for following along and for inspiring me to continue writing.  Also, I would like to thank my family, my friends, my boyfriend for their continued love and support throughout my journey.  I am nothing without you, guys!

A huge chunk of my thank you’s and appreciation goes to my sister, Gladys Jem <3 for snapping my beautiful blog photos.  I’m so thankful for your awe-inspiring talent and creative direction.  We make such a badass sister team!

HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYONE!  Here’s to happy new dreams.  Happy new desires.  Happy NEW YOU.  You know those things that you’ve always wanted to do? You should go do them. It is never too late to set another goal or to dream another dream, guys!  I hope you will find this post inspiring.  Have an AMAZING year!

2016, I am coming for you!

<3

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Photo by Gladys Jem

“My most precious JEM.”

 

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“Beauty can be seen in all things, seeing and composing the beauty is what separates the snapshot from the photograph.” – Matt Hardy

Photo by Gladys Jem

 

Most of you know that my beautiful and talented sister, Gladys Jem is the person responsible for all my lovely blog photos.  She is actually a wedding photographer based in San Francisco.  Without her behind the lens, my blog would be lifeless and this awesome  sister team would not exist!  Today, I would like to give a shoutout to this wonderful human and praise her exquisite work.

This past weekend, I watched my sissy photograph my best friend’s wedding.  I’ve never seen her in action and in full-on work mode until that day.  It’s no surprise that she snaps amazing photos because she savors the peachy moments – every hundredth of a second of it.  She will never settle for less than perfect, but will strive to craft images that will last a lifetime.  Shots that make her (and you will too) squeal with excitement because it’s so dang good.  Fun fact: she sometimes squeals when she gets the “money shot”. Haha!

I just wanted to share this #proudsissymoment because seeing her photograph the bride and groom and making sure their expectations were met is pretty darn awesome.  This woman is passionate in what she does and is really good at it!  Please take a moment to check out some of the weddings she’s done and this one that was featured on Style Me Pretty recently. The city hall elopements are my personal favorite. 🙂

Thank you sissy for my fabulous #ootd shots, for teaching me how to “smize” (smiling with your eyes), and for telling me to not “make that face”.  You know, the face that I always make when I am not “feeling it/myself” during our photo sessions.  Let’s be honest: sometimes there are moments when I am not photogenic at all.  Haha!  Thank goodness for your posing and directing tips!  You are my precious JEM. <3

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“Made in L.A.”

Because a woman can’t step out of her home empty-handed.  When I’m on the go, I grab my keys, phone, wallet and lip balm and as soon as you know it, my hands are full and I am not pleased.  I’m not a fan of carrying big purses all the time because I find it difficult to manage all the contents (hundreds of bobby pins, lipstick tubes, Advil, eye drops, vitamins…) running into each other and creating a hot mess. Sometimes, I feel that I overstuff my purse and I just end up looking clumsy carrying it around.  Clutches however, will make you want to get rid of the unnecessary clutter and just keep whatever you need the most!  Smaller but efficient and perfect for that busy girl (that’s me!) that’s always on the go.

Hoping to invest in a staple clutch that you’ll carry through all seasons?  Do you simply want to add another bright bag to your accessories collection?  Looking for that one that screams “carry me!”?  What if I told you that you can customize your own?  Essex Los Angeles has you covered.

These custom-made clutches are made in L.A. designed by YOU.  You choose your size, leather, zipper color, and the lining and voilà!  You’ve got a great clutch with utility value that suits your personality.

I had so much fun shooting with the beautiful Maya from My Life as Maya in downtown Los Angeles showcasing Essex L.A.’s new colors for this season.  From cheetah print to bright, bold colors, these beauties will carry you through summer weddings to evenings out with your girlfriends! <3

 

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Photos by Steven Pearson

“Feature X My Style and Grace Pop-Up”

SF!  We’re coming for ya!  My Spring fling with Feature is turning into the real thing. Pop in, sip and shop for new arrivals + exclusive markdowns + some music + bubbly and small bites!  Come hang out and support your local girl gang. <3

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Can’t make it?  We’ve got you covered.  Click on the links below and shop my looks here!

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Get Bodied Dress by WYLDR

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Opening Ceremony Crop Top / Opening Ceremony Skirt

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PepTalk Leather Skirt / Dash Sunglasses 

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Cut-Throat Heroin Dress

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I’m Yours Midi Skirt

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Sheer Overlay Halter

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Art Skool Skort

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The Space Between Crop Top / Tommy Faux Leather Shorts

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Love Lace Maxi Dress

Photos by Gladys Jem

Looking forward to seeing you there!  XOXO

“My newest love affair – Feature Clothing”

Is it possible to fall in love on Instagram?  I guess you could say that it was love at first sight, but they had me at “double tap”.  We met, sparks flew, and before I knew it, my love affair with Feature began.  If you have the chemistry, you only need one thing: timing.  Feature Clothing reached out to me for their launch as I was in the midst of launching my blog around the same time.  Ahh!  How crazy is that?!  Now that’s what you call fate.  This is no longer a fling, it is becoming THE real thing! <3

The #bossladies behind Feature are Jacklyn N. and Kyyah L.  After learning more about them, I’ve spent a disproportioned amount of time thinking about all the awesome women out there who are doing their thing and how I can be like them.  Well, these two are definitely on my list.  I’ve been told to do what I love and to only surround myself with people who are going to lift me higher..well, here they are!  Learn a little more about this dynamic duo in this short interview we did and see why it is such a treat to have joined this girl gang.

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 1. How did FEATURE clothing come about? Tell us more about you!

How FEATURE came to be is rather serendipitous. Kyyah and I have been best friends for half of our lives. If you were to look at us then, you’d see what an odd pairing we were—one geeky Vietnamese girl in Triple 5 Soul and baggie pants, and the other: braces, overall pant legs rolled up, and N0LimitDiva15 screen name! As we matured, fashion still bonded us. Kyyah grew to become a merchandising superstar in LA and Hawaii and I was working on copywriting and marketing for start ups in California. Neither of us felt satisfied working for someone else. So, an idea led to more serious talks and more “should we’s?” and just when we needed that extra push, Kyyah’s husband took a job offer in California.. placing us in the same city again. A calming moment of “if not now, when?” and “ will we EVER really feel ready?” came and we decided to just take a leap. From there, we organized, got right, and here we are (give and take a few extra mishaps and crying in the shower moments).

2. Can you tell us what your typical customer is?

Hmm, well Google Analytics says our customer is….just kidding.
Our girl is definitely self-possessed, and knows what she likes, but at the same time isn’t rigid in her ways. She’s on the pulse with what’s in, and enjoys being an early adopter of emerging designers and brands. Basically, she’s the girl that tells her friends what they should be wearing and is always met with, “No way. Nah, I don’t like that”.. only to end up embracing the trend months later.

FEATURE was founded with this woman—so much in fact that the manifesto is written on the Letters from the Curators page of the website.  We select pieces and brands with this woman in mind and now our continuous mission is just to find you all and let you know we’re here!

3. What advice can you give someone who would someday like to start their own business?

Kyyah: Surround yourself with like-minded people that are striving for similar goals as you and be willing to support, encourage, and uplift one another. Also, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and build relationships..you never know where a conversation with someone can lead you.

Jacklyn: Take everything with a grain of salt. It’s easy to float on hot air when you’re doing well and everyone is congratulating or complimenting you, and just as easy to get dragged down when you hear negative comments or criticism. The key is to remain grounded– take compliments with humility and negative comments as constructively as you can without letting it eat away at your confidence. Oh, and get ready to WORK your ass off.

4. If you had a chance to work with a celebrity boss lady, who would it you have the pleasure of working with? Why is that?

Oh my gosh, there are SO many women kicking butt nowadays that it would be so hard to choose just one. The obvious choice would be the #girlboss herself, Sophia Amoruso. She built a brand—a movement really–based on straight hustle and smarts and being herself unapologetically. The fact that she started this all in the Bay Area? Well, that just makes it so much sweeter.
But, honestly, any girl out there that just goes for it is someone we want to be around.

5. What can we look forward to in the future from FEATURE?

More snarky captions. More bad ass emerging designers and hopefully exclusive pieces with different brands. More pop-ups in different states. More, more, more!

A true love story never ends…follow me @mystyleandgrace and @shopfeature on IG and stay tuned for more. <3

 

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To K & J, thank you for making me your newest muse.